Wives - Is it normal to sometimes resent or detest your husband?

My husband acts like such a JERK sometimes, and I find myself resenting him and feeling so much anger at him. I have tried every method I know to let him know in a kind way that something he does is bothering me, but any time I say ANYTHING to him at all, no matter how loving and understanding I am about it, he gets very nasty and says sarcastically, "Wow what a surprise, I can't just be myself, I have to fit into your mold and change who I am for you." It's not like I ask him for things all the time - It's just every once in a while, if I feel like I need a little extra reassurance of his love and caring. If I am in need of extra emotional support or just a little extra love and I mention it to him, he gets all huffy and mad at me because I brought it up, instead of just being there for me in my time of need. An example is I was threatening miscarriage and felt like I needed extra support and just wanted to have a little extra love from him, but of course he couldn't handle it and made a really big deal out of the fact that I was asking him for a little extra love. He acts like such a child at times, and it makes me want to rip out my hair because it's like I can't communicate to him in ANY way that he would consider okay. It's like he never wants to hear me make even one suggestion or complaint for the rest of our lives, and I feel it is so unfair. What can I do? I just want to communicate with my husband and tell him sometimes if something really bothers me, but he makes me walk on eggshells because, God Forbid, I want my husband to be loving towards me or caring and considerate. I am just so fed up - Any advice or suggestions would be so helpful. Thank you so much.